戀愛寶典:初次約會時 你必須知道的事

    Taking an interest in her life， job or anything else that she likes to talk about is a must for first date conversations. You can do that by asking questions like， “How did your job/hobby/interest start？”

    在初次約會的時候，聊聊她的生活、工作之類她樂意聊的話題是必須的。你可以用“你的工作、愛好、興趣是怎么開始的呀？”作為開頭。

    Contrary to popular opinion， women don‘t only want to talk about themselves； they also want to see what’s going on with you. When it comes to dreams， expressing yours will make her gain some interesting insight into you， and she‘ll love that you can open up to her.與大家通常所想的不同，女人在約會的時候不僅僅是想聊聊自己的問題；她們也會想要了解你。不要吝嗇于談談你的夢想，這會讓她對你有更深一層的了解，她會很高興看到你對她敞開心扉的。

    Throwing in a word about your friend and something interesting he said or did will show your date that you have some awesome mates. Just make sure you don‘t fall into the trap of going on and on about your friends to the point where you are taking focus away from your date.跟她聊聊你朋友的事情，或者你朋友說的或者做的好玩的事會讓你的約會對象覺得你朋友很多。但是千萬不要總跟她聊你朋友的事，這會讓她覺得你的注意力都沒放在她的身上。

    The sound of your laughter is always something she wants to hear. It shows her that she has a great sense of humor and you find her delightful. Just try not to overdo it， and always keep it genuine.初次約會的時候不要介意多笑一笑。這會讓她感覺到你覺得她很可愛。但是也不要做得太過，最重要的是要表現出你的真誠

    Sometimes the best way to get to know someone is through personal anecdotes. So go on and share an experience that stands out as a great memory.有時候了解一個人的最佳方式就是了解他的一些小趣聞。所以不要害怕跟她分享讓你記憶深刻的經歷哦。

    By the end of the first date， both parties need to know if the other had a fun time or not. If you had a good time with her， then tell her. She will really appreciate hearing it.約會結束時，雙方都想知道對方在此次約會中是否開心。如果和她約會很快樂，那么千萬不要害怕告訴她哦。聽見你這么說她會很高興的。

    Of course you don‘t know if she had a fun time， but you can set a platform for a future date， mention a great sushi bar or Italian restaurant you’ve dined at recently， and ask her if she‘s been there.（plus， it’s an easy way to bring up other topics）。

    你不知道此次約會她是否滿意，不過也別忘了為下一次約會做鋪墊，你可以說說你最近去過的某個不錯的壽司店或者意大利餐廳，問問她有沒有去過那里。（另外這也是開啟新話題的不錯方式哦~）

    It‘s good to let her know a bit more about yourself. She’ll love to hear about your interests and hobbies. Divulging information about yourself enables you both to see if you‘re on the same wavelength. Plus， she’ll love that you‘re offering some info about yourself without her having to ask all the questions.讓她多了解你一些沒什么不好。她會很樂意了解你的興趣愛好。透露一些關于你的信息會讓你們互相之間了解某些話題上是否有同感。另外她肯定也愿意看到你主動談談自己的事情，而不是所有事情都要她親口來問。

    There‘s nothing wrong with going Dutch on a first date， but it’s really the gentlemanly thing to pick up the bill for her. When she reaches into her purse， tell her that you have it covered. She‘ll be impressed that you took the effort for her and your chivalry will increase your chances of a second date.初次約會AA制也沒什么問題，但是主動為她買單會體現出你紳士的一面。當她準備掏錢的時候告訴她你已經幫她付過帳了。你的行為會給她留下個好印象并增加促成下次約會的可能性哦。